Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Monsters "The Neighbors" - Beware Of; Side, By Side, Duplex Apartments!

Stages of Sleep

Effects of Sleep Deprivation on the Body

Sleep deprivation

The Spooky Effects of Sleep Deprivation

How Sleep Affects The Heart
"Rising early a risk for vascular diseases," said an abstract of a study, which followed 3,017 healthy adults ages 23 to 90.

Specifically, the team found that people who habitually rise before 5 am have a 1.7 times greater risk of high blood pressure and are twice as likely to develop hardening of the arteries as those who get up at 7 am or 8 am The Worst Time to Wake Up Is-before 5 am And it's best for your heart health to sleep in until 7 am or 8 am-every day.

I live next door to, "the neighbors from hell!"
I've included A Sample Of Their Behavior Below. Every day/night, it's always, the same.

The Story. My Next Door Neighbors Are Torturing Me!
Anyone who knows me;  knows, I rather write blog posts that help people than complain. 

I live in subsidized housing. I am planning to ask for a transfer to a different complex this Spring. That's the only way I could afford to move. 

Meanwhile; I'm finished with, 

Being scared awake by the sound of this tenants doorbell or other really loud noises from her apartment all night long. 

Not being able to breath.
I find myself holding my breath every time I hear the door across the hall open, dreading whatever horrible chemical, or other odor is sure to follow.

Also; lately there's been, physical problems. I'm hyperventilating, can't breath, racing and a burning pain in my heart. I cannot wait until these people's behavior, causes me some kind of permanent physical problem, I get hurt, or worse.

Therefore; I decided to take my life back and fight back. The only way I know how. By writing.
I'm from NJ; where squealers (*not referring to whistle blowers), are frowned on. If' that's all they got, is to squeal on someone, it's considered a weakness. A character flaw.

I'll never let this woman run me off.

I have kept these tenants/neighbors, anonymous (even though, no one here knows them).
For; were it my intention, to be a big squealer like my neighbor is, there's lot's easier ways to accomplish that, than writing 5 diaries. But that is not my goal. My aim, is to get these people to stop making noise all night long and to get them to stop killing me using chemical air fresheners, etc. 

No man's error becomes his own law. Nor obliges him to persist in it. Thomas Hobbs

doorbell refers to:
neighbors across the hall ringing their own doorbell to get in their apartment.

they refers to:
neighbors across the hall.

Question: How Many Times Can A Person Get Scared Awake By The Sound Of A Doorbell Before It Drives Them Crazy?

Sample Average Week With The Neighbors From Hell

Tues 9/22

12:30 am
someone rang doorbell scared me awake.
I finally got back to sleep at 1:45 am  and 2:30 am, someone rang doorbell again and scared me awake.

Tues night 11:15 pm
I fell back asleep at 10:45 and someone made some screaming kind of noise in scared me awake again.

Wed 9/23

6:15 am
Someone just rang doorbell again. Almost gave me a heart attack scaring me awake. I got this burning feeling in my heart.

Fri 9/25

12:15 am
someone rang  doorbell scared me awake

1:30 am
someone rang doorbell scared me awake.

Next door neighbors, washed at least 4 loads of laundry.
Went back and forth to laundry room 4 times. Started 1st load, at aprox 11am I smelled it go out dirty and the detergent, softener on it when it came back in. Not in a bag, for sure.

Sat 9/26 

aprox 1:45 am
Loud musical chime like sound (cellphone ring? I think). Loud enough to be heard through the common wall. Scared me awake. I had just fallen asleep at 1 am.

Aprox 2am
someone rang doorbell. Loud, scared me awake.

Again at, 2:15 am
someone just rang doorbell real loud. Scared me awake again. Up now.

I finally got back to sleep at 6am.

7 am
someone rang doorbell.

7:30 am
someone rang doorbell.

8:15 am
loud noise from apt. Banging or doorbell, by then I was out cold, but heard very loud scary noise.

Sun 9/27 

9 pm
Someone rang doorbell. After not sleeping for days still so exhausted. I  fell asleep at 8:15 pm. Was just dozing off when doorbell rang. Now have pain in my heat again.

Why are they even ringing a doorbell when whomever is inside to hear it is up at 9pm and can hear a knock?

The entire apt is only 750sq ft. I can hear when they knock on their door. From my bedroom with the door closed and foam ear plugs in my ears.
They know the bell can be heard by me.

They know it's located opposite my bedroom closet.

So they're ringing it to wake me. So I'll be awake at 1:30 am and 3:30 am when they come in again and ring it. That way they can say 8:30 is a legal time to make noise.

Now I'll be up all night again, my adrenaline pumping from being scared awake!

I fell asleep shaking as I do every night. I forced myself to stay awake till 3:46 am hoping to avoid being awoken by the one who comes in at this time. I heard someone walk in the hall and figured it was safe.

Apparently not. I just started dozing off when aprox 15 min later I heard a knocking sound. Figured at least they're not ringing the bell. Then about 15 min later heard another knocking sound. Woke me up even further.

Then just now aprox 4:20 am, someone rang doorbell and scared me awake totally.  I get this burning pain in my heart from being scared awake by the doorbell!

My heart has been racing all weekend and I've had that pain too.

Again; aprox Between 4:45 am and just again now at 5:10 am
someone rang doorbell twice more.

I just started to doze back off after 4:20 ringing and it rang again.

Between 11:15 am and 3 pm,
tenants next door, went in and out her back/bedroom door. Opening and closing it loudly at least once every hour till 3pm when she finally woke me up, again.
I didn't get to sleep till 6am. This 11-3 waking me, is to ensure I don't get any REM sleep.

Mon 9/28

I fell asleep at aprox 9 pm. I'm exhausted. 11:45 pm they slammed apt door. I thought at least it's not the doorbell.

Tues 9/29

1:15 am
Someone just rang doorbell again and scared me awake. Now I'll be up all night. I have a pain in my heart and can't breath. I'm hyperventilating again too.

Wed 9/30

12:15 am
Someone rang doorbell and scared me awake. My heart started racing and I've had a pain in my chest all day  for days now.


10/22 to 10/30th

This has been a quiet week compared to most. Since the next door neighbor is laying low, now that, she's the one in the spotlight.

Power, so fleeting. On top today. On the bottom tomorrow. Especially imagined power. That only lasts about 5 minutes.

Thurs 10/22

7 am,
they rang next doors, doorbell and scared me so bad, I sat straight up in bed. For years I was jumping out of the bed and running to the door in my sleep every time.

Fri 10/23
Aprox 1 am, smelled scented candles, glade spray, vanilla scented garbage bags, dirty clothing going out and just now
2:05 am clean clothing being brought back in. Smell permeated my apt. Definitely not in any kind of bag. Someone has gone in and out at least 5 times since aprox 9pm. Just came in again. Went in and out 3 time past hour and 1/2.

2 am, they just brought a load of laundry in. No bag just in a laundry basket. The smell permeated my apt.

For days now it's been the smell of those vanilla scented garbage bags and aerosol air freshener.

I couldn't go to sleep last night till I aired my bedroom out because these smells permeate my apt and get all over my clothing, hair etc. Like cigarette smoke does. When I went to bed the other night it got on my sheets.

Now I'm smelling other stuff. It's the son's girlfriend she's wearing the sun tan lotion. In the middle of Oct. She's using sun screen. She's outside my door, listening to the computer keys click. Threateningly like, she'll spray air freshener all over if I complain.

4:51 am.
Someone just went in or out, (in probably) and slammed the door real loud. Either that or they dropped something really heavy. Loud bang. I'm still up. Sitting in living room. Was just thinking of going to bed. Afraid of getting scared awake by this one who comes in about 5am. About 1/2 hr later think I heard another bang, but couldn't be sure.

6:30 am.
Someone rang doorbell real loud. I heard that. It scared me awake after I had just fallen asleep!

Aprox 11 am, they're is spraying aerosol air freshener again in the hall. This time it smells like orange.
The pain in my heart just came back.

Sun 10/25 Odor from air freshener. All day long various chemical odors. Air freshener, scented garbage bags, furniture polish.

Sometimes I just don't even keep track.

It's not the "guests" being there. Even if they are obnoxious. It's the constant doorbell ringing, banging, noise and the un-necessary chemicals that they insist on using. It All has to stop.

These tenants cannot keep asphyxiating me with their chemicals. Even weather stripping on the door doesn't keep them out they're so pungent!

Mon 10/26
6:20 am. They went in and out all night, starting about (1am to just a little while ago. Maybe 5 am), doing laundry. The smell of dirty laundry and damp laundry permeated my apt at least 3 times.

Then about 3 or 4 am the one who wears the sun screen came in. Now they just went out with a vanilla scented garbage bag.

Tues 10/27
Neighbors asphyxiated me all day, with various chemicals smells.

Then it quieted down a little, until 2:30 am, smell of incense totally permeated my apartment. I was almost being able to breath better today. Then the incense and I started having trouble breathing again. So I went to sleep.

4:45 am
a loud noise woke me. It sounds like either a cell phone they're using instead of the doorbell but I can still hear it.

pm Smell of incense. To cover up smell of air freshener.
4:45 pm Now I just smelled what smells like that flowery, air freshener aerosol spray.

Exhausted I tried to nap. Fell asleep aprox 5pm. 8 pm
someone rang doorbell next door and scared me awake.
My heart was racing and the pain was back a little bit too. Now I can't breath.

They're probably using a scented candle. That and the incense do it every time. Think Knew, I smell the canned air freshener a little too. Someone just went out and I smell it. Than canned air freshener and the scented candles are disgusting smelling. Makes me dizzy and nauseous, every time.

9:50 pm. They just brought in damp laundry. 

10:15 pm They just went past with a vanilla scented garbage bag. In a second bag, but I can still smell it.

11:15 pm They just went out again. Aerosol spray air freshener smell, just permeated my apt. She's wearing the sunscreen again too. I smell it.

Also smelled like dirty laundry went out and more laundry from dryer brought back in.

They know how to be, really quiet, when they want to be.

They go in and out all night. And ring the doorbell all night too. They go in and out 20 times a night.

12:45 am they rang the doorbell across the hall. Between 12:45 and 2:20 am they rang my next door neighbors doorbell 3 times. I was out having been up since 11am with maybe 5 hours sleep the night before. The sound of the bell woke me 3 times. The first time I managed to look at the clock and the third time it woke me completely at 2:20 am.

It's not like they ever, stop with the noise and the chemicals. They flood the small, shared hall and subsequently, my apartment on a daily basis with the smells of these laundry detergent chemicals, chemical air fresheners and more.

Since 2:20 am they have gone in and out next door numerous times. I lose count. But they just 4:45 am went out and back in and a flood of the aerosol air freshener is seeping in my apt. My bedroom reeks of it because it got all over me and then, it gets on my sheets. Last night my bedroom smelled like flowery aerosol spray. I can't live like this!

Wed 10/28

 I finally got back to sleep aprox 7 am. 

Aside from the usual, noises her (the mother) walking around, going out the back door to smoke 3 times between 7am and 9 am. They were actually quiet except for a knocking sound aprox 10 am. I managed to sleep until some noise woke me at 10 pm. First sleep I've had in years. Now of course they're still smelling up my apt with laundry. They just came in with some. Last night the smell of chemical air fresheners and laundry chemicals almost killed me. 

12:10 am They just went out and back in again. This time the orange scent permeated my apt door. I'm sure it's a spray. I've smelled it stronger on several occasions. My entire living room gets inundated with these odors. I wrote the manager an email about the problem.

By the time these people, stop going in and out all night, my living room will again be full of these chemicals floating around in the air. 

Now they're pretending again. It's a game they play. Whenever I complain they pretend to have reformed. Usually after Management tells them to stop what they're doing. It lasts about a day or two. Then it's game on with them again. 

12:45 am they just went out again, with food smelling garbage. Somewhat contained, but still very pungent. 1:10 am, could swear I smell more dirty clothes. They do laundry all night. I suspect they've been told to find their own apt, because since June, they've washed everything they own. A closet full of clothing for two.

1:43 am Could swear I smell that flowery spray tenants use. 

She refuses to stop spraying it around her apartment and in the hall too. 

It's a weapon. "passive aggressive behavior", but everyone uses it, etc?" If it seeps out into the hall, its a lease violation. I'm allergic to it. 

4 am They just came in. he apt door opened and I smell, the air freshener again. 

This is the problem, they don't care.

Thurs 10/29 

5 pm The chemical smells are starting. This tenant (the mother) goes out every day about 4 or 5 pm and doesn't return till 11 pm. Then the "guests" start up, with the incense, scented candles aerosol spray air freshener, etc. I smelled it before (air freshener and incense). Now, 7 pm odor of powder. 

I was finally breathing ok again. Now I'm starting to have trouble breathing and the pain in my heart is back a little. 

Except for waking me up twice at 8 am with her going in and out the back door to smoke, and someone knocking aprox 9 am, (somewhere in her apartment), they actually let me sleep the past two days. Now my sleep schedule is all screwed up and I'm not getting to sleep till 7 am. I hate sleeping days. But at least I got some sleep. Finally.

7:45 pm They just went out with garbage. Fast food. No garbage bag. Just the bag it came in. It stinks. "Passive aggressive behavior. It's in a plastic bag, like lease says. Just not a garbage bag. So odors still escape. Serves same purpose as if no plastic bag. 

8:51 pm smell of vanilla. Must be another, spray.

9:20 pm smell of dirty laundry then, more clean laundry from dryer. Still smelling the vanilla too. They must have a spray, as well as garbage bags. Being overcome by the chemicals I went to sleep. I have so much sleep to try and catch up on.

11 pm The older one just came in (the mother) and rang her own doorbell to get in???

Scared me awake and I almost fell down. I fell about 3 months ago one morning after they scared me awake at 6 am. I was very lucky that day. Could have easily gotten hurt falling in my small galley kitchen, like I did. Lucky it wasn't the even smaller bath room with all those porcelain fixtures to hit.

She must have the door key on her key chain with her car keys? So WTF

12:22 am Odor of vanilla. I yelled when they woke me at 11pm, so this is their way of threatening me. They saw my other diaries, no doubt. They're probably listening at the door again. That could have been more garbage. They throw garbage out after every meal. That's quite a few times every day/night.

3:10 am, the odor of a scented candle is seeping in from the hall/apt next door.

5 am odor of neighbors scented candle totally permeating my apt. I can't breath again and the pain is back in my heart.

Went back to sleep, someone rang neighbors bell 10 am, again later. I was out cold by then. But heard her doorbell ring all morning and in the afternoon too. They know they keep me up all night. So they know if the ring the doorbell in the morning it will scare me awake again. They don't care. So now, neither do I.

Fri 10/30 8:15 pm They just brought in, more damp laundry from the laundry room. I heard a noise, smelled it, then smelled the scented candle they're burning again tonight. By the end of the night, if they keep opening that apt door. The chemicals from the candle, will have permeated my apt and I won't be able to breath. 

Got very little sleep last night so I fell asleep 9pm. 11 pmThe older one, (the mother) just came in and rang her own doorbell to get in. 

They're still burning the scented candle. I still smell it, 12:45. 

This means they've been burning it for at least 4 hours. 

They just went out again, and I can smell the candle and the air freshener spray. 

My eyes are starting to burn, my hearts been racing since they scared me awake at 11 and I'm dizzy too. 

It's no wonder the odors are escaping into the hall. That apt must be a toxic cloud of chemicals. 

This has to be harassment!

5:15 am Still didn't get back to sleep after being scared awake at 11pm. They went out and in and out again. Odor of damp laundry and food type garbage. Something with tomato sauce, pretty sure not in a garbage bag.

Sat 10/31 9:15 am Someone banging real loud and ringing next door neighbors doorbell.

I finally got back to sleep at 6 am. Now they scared me awake again.

12 pm The older one (the mother) went out and the smell of incense and scented candles started. Still, smell it, 1 hour later.  1:25 am They just went out again, now she's spraying the aerosol air freshener.

Tues 11/3

Between 2:30 am and 6 am,
tenant next door, woke me 3 times with a loud, chme' type sound.  One sounded like; beep, beep, beep, tone tone tone (?). 

Sounds like different cell phone rings. The phone is being placed right next to the apartment's common wall.
I can hear from what direction the sound is coming from. The first time sounded like it was on a table near their front door.

Second and third time
sounded like in the bedroom, by my wall, up by the closets.

A third time it sounded like, a computer booting up, near the wall in the bedroom. Third time woke me completely at 6 am.

Cells phone has many, types of ring tone sounds. New trick, as loud as the doorbell, but harder to 1 identify, 2 complain about.

Again "passive aggressive behavior".
Looks like compliance, if one doesn't know how loud cell phone rings can be turned up. 

They have theirs turned up to the decibels of the doorbell. They keep it on my side of the wall because; They don't want it on the opposite wall, by their head, it's a clever way to harass me, (not) and  they can claim, they're not ringing the doorbell  

I'm smelling vanilla again. They're still doing laundry every night, all night. All this weekend and almost every night.

9:30 am they're spraying the aerosol air freshener again. I just smelled it. She opened her door. This is to get me sick to start the day off.
They do this to me every day. Every night. Just to get me sick. They don't like my blog posts.

11:25 am More un-bagged laundry. Bad smells about an hour ago. Now I smell warm laundry from the dryer going back in apt next door. This tenant carries her dirty and clean laundry in a laundry basket, back and forth to apartment complex's laundry room. Past my door, in this tiny hall. She doesn't think her dirty clothes stink? Or just another form of harassing me?

Typical bullies.
It's ok, (normal) for them to be able to do things to me. But should I complain about their behavior, that makes me the bad one, and this tenant; is, the biggest squealer in town too???

I get about 5 hours sleep (2hrs, then 3hrs, etc. This is, the daily/nightly average. Instead of the recommended 8 to 9.

So; missing, 4 Hours sleep a night x 365 = 1, 460 hours of missed sleep, a year.

No big deal, according to my next door neighbor.

This tenant; allows people to ring her doorbell, on an average of, every, three to four hours/24/7-365. Waking me up and keeping me up all night. 

Also she allows them; to keep, bombarding me with toxic chemicals from her apartment. Regardless of the fact, that she has been told by Management, I am severely allergic. As well as advised of my fibromayalgia and medical condition. 

She's allowing it. The property is leased in her name. That makes her, responsible.

This is, the legal definition of torture.

This doorbell ringing all hours, other loud noises, garbage smells, laundry odors and "chemical warfare" they're waging against me has to stop. I've been getting chest pains all summer. It's like a burning feeling in my heart.

People think I'm dumb just because I'm quiet. They always underestimate me. Then, they miss their chance and I win. This is my gift and that, everyone loves me. (Except bad people).

Mind Control
by me

First Rule
Isolate the Victim.

Second Rule
Convince them that they like it.
Oh No, Stockholm Syndrome!

Third Rule
Recruit and Convince Accomplices.

Fourth Rule
Argue with the victim.

Fifth Rule
Leave occasionally (randomly but consistently).

Sixth Rule
Beat the victim occasionally physically or emotionally, threaten often!
Demoralize them to the point that they believe anything you tell them as truth!

Seventh Rule
Never let the victim forget you are (supposedly), superior to them.

Eighth Rule
Pretend Nothing's Going On.

Psychological manipulation  is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics.
An overview

How to Detect Lies - Body Language, Reactions, Speech Patterns

Civil Disobedience Training Manual

I also resent these neighbors for taking up my time chasing them trying to make them behave. I have better things to do. Obviously!  ie Food Pantry Locator 

Marie Ann Sanders
First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win. Gandhi 

Conditioned Response

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